The Daddy Cycle is the working title of the book that lurks in my head. As I attempt to get it out…occasionally I will run to this blog to jot down some notes and thoughts. Since the book isnt ready. This is the Mixtape.
So, I was randomly tweeting with Twittette extraordinaire @whymelawd on the subject of Tony Dungy commenting on Reggie Bush and what he should do with his Heisman Trophy.
The substance of what she said for the purposes of this particular post revolve around her assertion that most professional coaches’ fathering skills left something to be desired because of the Nature of those Fathers building long-standing relationships outside of the home.
This was in response to my assertion that there were many fields in which men sacrifice a more intimate fathering experience in exchange for more success at work.
This sent me down the rabbit hole of The Daddy Track
Sure there are articles like THIS one that discuss the paths certain men are taking to allow themselves time to spend with their children, but I am wondering if, in fact, Such a world really exists.
Is the Daddy Track REAL?
Or is it the Mommy Track for Humans with penises?
Is our culture REALLY expecting men to put family first…
not because they HAVE to, in the case of all of us Running our ass home to Grab Jr. or Janie from DayCare because our wives/SOs/CM are just as busy as the man is…
but because it is an ACTIVE choice.
They look in the mirror and say, “Yanno, you could REALLY bust your ass out here and make partner…or you could just do your job and be home by 6.”
Is anyone REALLY making this choice.
I’m asking. Because I really want to know.